It’s not their fault you can’t stick to your diet.

Nothing sucks more than having a partner that doesn’t want to eat healthy when you’re on a diet, am I right?

When I first started dating my partner Markus, I was deep in diet-mode. I had already lost 20 lbs and had about 5-10 more to go. He was a personal trainer, and was just starting a ‘bulk’ (essentially the reverse of a diet where you increase your food intake to put on size and muscle). While I drank my smoothies and ate my balanced, healthy meals, he ate three cinnamon buns for breakfast, pizza pockets for lunch and protein shakes, pasta and ice cream for dinner.

Needless to say, it was a frustrating experience. But it that taught me the most valuable lesson I would ever learn in dieting: Your goals are your responsibility and no one else’s.

Tough pill to swallow. Believe me.

I mean he should have been more sensitive, more compassionate to my goals, right?

His lifestyle was hindering my progress, and therefore he should have to be the one to change, not me… right?

Sadly, that’s not exactly true. And the reason why, is best described in Mark Manson’s book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. In it, he writes,

A lot of people hesitate to take responsibility for their problems, because they believe that to be responsible for your problems is to also be at fault for your problems. Which is not always the case. There are also problems that we aren’t at fault for, yet we are still responsible for them.’

Just like…an over-indulgent partner who (unfortunately) doesn’t have to change his lifestyle, simply because you have a weight loss goal.

Although frustrating, this realization helped me to recognize how much I blamed other people and the circumstances of my life (including my partner) for my lack of success. It was unnerving to see how willing I was to hand over power to other people to determine the outcome of my goals.

As much as this mindset and behaviour of putting blame on someone or something else made me ‘feel better’ about my inability to achieve my goals, I realized that I didn’t want to ‘give away’ that power. I wanted to determine my life, my success, and my goals – no one else.

‘The more we choose to accept responsibility in our lives, the more power we will exercise over our lives. Accepting responsibility is therefore thus the first step to solving our problems’. – Mark Manson

I knew something had to change so I immediately started taking responsibility for my goals and my actions. I vowed to do it for the next 6 months to see what would happen. And you know what – I was able to stick to my diet and… I lost the weight.

This mindset shift became the key to my weight loss success and has become a pillar in my coaching to help my clients ‘unblock’ their weight loss. If this resonates with you, I invite you to try the same approach and see if it works for you the same way it did for me. Set a time frame and take responsibility for all the things that you normally would  put on other people and other things that hold you back from achieving your goals. Busy job, unsupportive partner, crazy schedule with the kids… none if it is your fault, but it is your responsibility to find solutions for it if you want to truly find success on your own terms.

If you want to talk it out with someone who’s been there, then book an Unblock Weight Loss Call with me and together we’ll uncover what’s holding you back and how we can get you to overcome it!

With love and nut butter,

Lindsey Xx

The Dieting Reality

One of the biggest challenges when trying to lose weight is finding the time to do it – especially as a Mom.

Losing weight is like adding a whole other extra curricular activity to your life. And these days, the last thing we need is one more thing on our plate! Amiright?!

First, you need to figure out what you can and can’t eat on that meal plan.

Wait a minute – be right back my daughter’s fussy.

Then, you need to figure out all those recipes and make a grocery list of everything you need.

Hold on, I just got this text. My partner’s working late, I’ve got to go pick up the kids today.

Then, there’s finding the time to plan alternative meals for your family that they’ll enjoy because your partner is not going to suffer through another weight-loss meal plan along side you!

Ugh, I’ve got to respond to this email quickly, and the dryer just buzzed, the laundry needs folding.

Then you have to find the time to cook and meal prep.

Ok it’s Sunday! I have the whole day! “Mom, can you drive me to Darin’s house?” “Sweetie, can we go look at dishwashers, Home Depot is having a sale. Oh and we need to stop by my parent’s place and give my Dad the drill, he want’s to borrow it. And maybe while we’re in the area we’ll pop into Costco?”

Ok where were we again? Oh ya, right! Starting my diet!

Does this sound familiar?!

This is exactly why structured diets with meal plans and restrictive programs that limit certain foods don’t work. because WHO HAS THE TIME TO FIGURE THAT OUT?!

Meal plans don’t teach you how to eat healthy – they teach you how to follow a meal plan.

Restrictive diets that cut out foods like carbs and sugar don’t teach you how to maintain your results. Lord knows you’ll give up sugar and alcohol for a few weeks – but for life?! Not happening!

So how does a busy Mom like you lose weight?! You just need to know the foundation of good nutrition. That’s it.

Knowledge is power.

And when it comes to dieting that’s the one thing we all lack – knowledge. What do I need to eat? How much do I need to eat? When do I need eat?

Answer these questions and you’ll have the power to control and manipulate your diet to achieve the results that you’ve always wanted – and MAINTAIN them for the rest of your life!

So, are you ready to empower yourself? Let’s talk!